10 signs of self-sabotage in relationships

We all love succeeding and wish to live rich happy lives, but it seems that at almost every corner there's always someone trying to pull us down or make us feel bad

What if we were to embrace the concept?

For a moment we are the ones who are getting in our own way of reaching our goals. The truth is you have so much more power over your life than you may be give yourself credit for if you don't think so, you might want to consider these ten signs.

One, you struggle with impostor syndrome in 1978 psychologist Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Ames.

Identified the behavioral pattern of believing that one has only stumbled into success and hasn't actually earned any of their achievements as impostor syndrome do you often feel that even though you got a perfect score on your test got hired for the job you applied for?

Two, If you constantly think you're just getting lucky you might be suffering from impostor syndrome - you're overly self-critical. Are you always putting yourself down?

Do you constantly focus on your flaws and issues rather than what you're proud of we all have what's called the negative bias, which is meant to protect us from causing or experiencing future mishaps?

Three, you procrastinate. According to the dictionary, procrastination is the act or habit of delaying or putting off something that usually requires attention.

We want to make whether it be having a career of being a famous movie star or winning a video game tournament.

But why is it we distract ourselves from making our dreams become realities in almost every case?

This is because of fear we're afraid of failing and would rather not suffer the embarrassment disappointment or any pain whatsoever that would come with it.

But this probably isn't going to help achieve your dreams for you compare yourself to others.

Four,  you u got a B+ on your quiz, but your classmate Jorge got an A your friend Stacey got complimented for her outfit. But you didn't what's odd is that you probably felt fine until you made either of those comparisons.

Why is it that we spend so much time focusing on what others have rather than what we have this concept was first officially analyzed by social psychologists Leon Festinger in 1954?

Essentially he concluded that we compare to both reduce our uncertainty and help define ourselves. But unfortunately comparing isn't the best way to help motivate us in fact.

Five, your life is disorganized Does everything always feel really overwhelming and out of control?

We all go through times of complication but if one attribute of your life is in disarray and not taken care of it will seep into more aspects.

Six you initiate conflicts with those you love...

Are you somehow always getting into arguments with your family or are your friends frequently fighting with you?

Conflicts occurring in our lives one way or another are inevitable but if it's somehow happening between you and your loved ones all the time

Believe it or not if what we are familiar with is difficulty in turmoil then being at peace with those we love may actually make us feel a little uneasy this drives us to ignite more fights to get back into our comfortable area of chaos other times.

Seven, you lose your goals shortly after you achieve them have you ever received something you wished for only to lose it shortly afterward?

Eight, you focus on problems rather than solutions as John Lennon once said, there are no problems only solutions

The truth is you have full rein to believe whether an incident that occurred is an issue or not if you find yourself complaining or curling up in a ball every time something you don't want happens this is without a doubt a sign you're sabotaging yourself.

Nine, you're overindulgent now, this is an easy telltale sign

Do you find yourself snacking out of boredom?

Even when you don't think they're interesting or entertaining there's nothing wrong with watching shows or eating tasty food.

But when we do this merely to distract ourselves, this is yet another sign of procrastinating and therefore continuing to sabotage ourselves.

Then you question whether you have a purpose in life when you're not working towards what you want in your lives.

Ten, We might start asking the big question.

What's the meaning of my life? 

Life is what you make of it and lots of these questions simply don't have logical answers you find Pondering these thoughts will usually just lead you to overthink.